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Wife, Parent, Nurse; my life raw and real, as I see it.

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Adeiu 2013

Photo dump of my favorite moments from this year!


Sole Burner Kids Fun Run/5K

Strawberry picking a Cuff's Farm

Hiking in the NorthWoods!

Rocks bigger than my biggest kids!


Westli found more common interests with his siblings this year than any other year! Yeah!

Say Cheese!

Oh, FIREWORKS!!!!  This kid still hasn't stopped asking for more fireworks!

Tay, Liv, and Ava enjoyed the playground more than the fireworks, but we all had such a good time!

Thomas the Tank! Choo, choo!

The Butterfly Festival

Love how much we were able to connect with Wes this year!

House Elves! We read three Harry Potter books (2,3, and 4). The characters come alive when we are finished reading and dress up, feast, and watch the movies. 

I can't believe all the things we did this year, next year can only be better!

Monday, December 30, 2013

Happy Birthday Liv & Tay!

Eight years ago my first personal roller coaster called pregnancy ended 14 weeks early with an emergency Cesarean section.  Only one actually came that way, but both came with an appropriate amount of drama.  The nurses were really worried about our bonding both because we had preemies and because I was so sick from the infection that was raging throughout my body that I didn't have the energy to see them in the NICU (the same infection that caused my labor in the first place...). The nurses had nothing to worry about, although they couldn't have known that. I was in love with these two from moments long before they were a twinkle in my eye, but absolutely by their first appearance on that tiny ultrasound machine in Dr Schell's office.  I will never forget the smile on Jon's face when we found out that we would be having twins, nor how excited we both were when we finally had a positive pregnancy test. For the first three months we saw an ultrasound image of them each week, and when we got to the second trimester the doctor wanted to wait until their 22nd week... I am convinced that Taylor wanted 
his screen time and this is why he thought he would poke a little hole in that silly bag ;) I was stunned, what do you mean I won't get to see them for like ten weeks?!? As it turned out we only had to wait about six before things progressed. After that, I listened to them daily and saw them weekly again on ultrasound until the very day they arrived.  


I don't really allow myself to think about life without them.  I am always grateful that things worked out the way they did.  I am indebted to my family who supported us on the journey, who love them intensely as we do, and support us still through the ups and downs.  I am lucky to have selected the right physician who wasn't afraid to do things her way, based on empirical data and common sense. An most importantly, I am so lucky that my babies were Taylor and Alivya.  They were so strong right out of the gates.  They fought for this life and I couldn't be more proud of every accomplishment!

Couldn't have birthday pictures without a creeper picture, right!

Sunday, December 29, 2013

Genetics


I have been saying for some time now that Jon and Wes are two peas from the same pod... What I mean is that at the same age, they could be mistaken for each other.  


This was just the point I was trying to make to a friend today when I came across this photo of Jon...  If I hadn't known that I was in the file where I keep his family photos, and the quality where a little more modern... I would think I was looking at Wes.  To further support my point, I have added several photos of Wes here, all of which I think support the resemblance.  As Ava is my mini me, Wes is Jon's mini.  
 Its the hair, the shape of his face and nose, the way his bangs swoop when it gets too long... Its the expressions and the eyes...  The parentage of this child is undeniable.   


 







Saturday, December 28, 2013

Steve?



2013 was all about MineCraft where Taylor and Alivya are concerned. It started out benignly enough with them designing "worlds" and building stuff like virtual Legos, but in time it has developed into a teenager size obsession. So it was no surprise that they both wanted a MineCraft cake for thier birthday. I started this adventure by researching MineCraft cakes on Pinterest... I got a lot of ideas from there, including the Jigglers water... I had a really cool layered style cake planned with blocks of "dirt/grass", sand blocks, Lava and Water, when Alivya informed me that they wanted Steve? Cupcakes. Wait, what?


She also laid out her requirements that she have both chocolate and "vanilla" (yellow) cake options. Geez, so much for thinking I had a plan huh? Historically, I started out by making fancy cakes for the kids because opening more presents five days after Christmas was sort of "old". They seemed over it and had plenty of new toys to explore. This has become less of the case recently, but now the cakes are tradition... Years past, by the time we got to Ava and Wes' birthday (Jan 10) we were not only present-ed out, but also caked out... so I made them fancy cupcakes... less fancy and less cake (and therefore less fancy). So Livi and Tay wanting cupcakes threw a big wrench in my usual approach to the birthday celebrations!


Ava and Wes have requested a Princess and Ninjago themed cake... Should be interesting.


Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Merry Christmas


Merry Christmas!

I never got around to sending out a Holiday Card this year, just too much going on right now. Add to that the fact that I can't access my photos right now... I guess our Drobo needs some love... and there you go, no card. Its especially distressing since we did get such a great Santa photo with the kids this year. Tear...oh well... 

We had a pleasant holiday with some tears, frustration, and exhaustion. Taylor and Wes both showed their autistic tendencies at times throughout the day. Taylor was self isolating and inflexible, insisting on opening his gifts privately and in his own way. This of course is counter intuitive to the whole gift opening as form of entertainment and satisfaction for adults who have meticulously shopped, wrapped, and imagined their excitement of each gift. Wes really needed to explore and accept each new toy or package before moving on to another package. The concept that he has a whole year to play and explore is nonexistent to him. Ideally, we should give Wes a gift every morning or every Monday through the whole year. This would allow him enough time to move on. Even Ava and Alivya grew tired by the end of the day and experienced their own "meltdowns". I don't remember this type of performance presure as a kid during Christmas, but like Jon pointed out, we only had one Christmas to attend to. Our kids are accustomed to opening gifts for Christmas on at least three seperate celebrations throughout the week. So I guess there is no comparison. Still we had a good holiday with lots of cheer spreading! Hoping you all had a bright holiday too! Happy Holidays!

Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Lessons in Immunity

Last month was prematurity awareness month. Usually during November, I post a lot about how prematurity has affected my children and therefore, my parenting. This year, unfortunately, I was so busy completing my nursing degree that I didn’t have time to post to my blog. Still, as my eldest twins are poised to turn 8 years old next week, I was reminded yet again what it means to be the parent of preemie (or four as it is in our case).

 Over this past weekend, we took a minitrip a few states away to visit family. When we left, our eldest daughter had been in her yellow zone asthma medications for five days. We move from the green zone meds to the yellow zone meds whenever we see signs or symptoms of her triggers. In her case triggers include a seasonal cold (cough, runny nose) and cold weather (which can cause a cough and runny nose). Thus we start yellow meds when she has a cough, runny nose, or other shortness of breath, dyspnea or wheezing… Since our temps this month have averaged around negative numbers (and therefore super negative windchills) it was not at all surprising that she needed her yellow zone medications. 

 Friday she was excited, active, and running around. Saturday she was still active, keeping herself entertained, not running around, but well. By Saturday night I started to have some concerns, namely the tell tale rosy red cheeks she develops when she is about to tank-healthwise. I first noticed them during dinner, when she wasn’t overly enthusiastic about eating. I gave her some Advil and had her lay down. The next morning, Sunday, is when it all hit home. She was lying on the couch moaning and crying. She was warm, but not burning up, still rosy… thermometer read 98.9F. She told me she was dizzy when she stood up and didn’t sleep all night. I gave her some more meds and she fell asleep for an hour or so while we found a local Urgent Care. 


 The urgent care we found was amazing. They got us back to a room quickly and we saw a provider within 15minutes. They did a strep swab, gave her a nebulizer treatment, and took a chest xray. 

 So what does this have to do with prematurity? EVERYTHING… 

 Liv had already developed right upper lobe pneumonia. Her symptoms, a runny nose, began on December 15th. The common cold typically runs its course in 7 to 10 days. Therefore, nurses and doctors often advise patient’s to allow these symptoms 7-10 days to resolve, the principle being that after that time period it is less likely that the causative agent is a cold. So because Liv has asthma, which is a large part due to the fact that she was born 14 weeks early (26 weeks gestation), weighed 1lb 14oz at birth, and was ventilated for more than three weeks during her first month; her body cannot fight infections like yours and mine (typical healthy people). Add to this, the fact that the medications that we have to treat asthma (strengthen ventilation by reducing restricting inflammation within the lungs and dilating bronchial airways) actually also cause immunocompromise by restricting inflammation (the first step in our natural humoral immunity). 

 My point is that within the time the average person takes to fight off and recover from a cold, my child developed a debilitating pneumonia. If this were an isolated case, it might be less impressive, but the fact that she had pneumonia last month (November) and the month before (October) and two months before that (August) and at lest five other times in 2013. The fact that she smiles through it all, doesn’t let it defeat her, works hard in school, plays hard, and just finds everything in life wonderful and amazing… says more about her than me.


 Prematurity is a syndrome, and it lasts a lifetime. In 2008 US News and World Report wrote an article about the lasting effects of prematurity. In it was cited a research report published in the Journal of the American Medical Association in March of that same year. This study concluded that for their subjects born between 22 and 27 weeks gestation the rate of mortality (death) during their early childhood (ages 1-6years) was 5.3 to 9.7 times higher than children born at term and late childhood (ages 6-13) 7 times higher. Other studies have suggested that preemies who live into adulthood are more likely to suffer from COPD, sleep apnea, and other disorders involving their respiratory tract. 


 Alivya will always struggle with lung infections. She will probably always take daily inhaled medications in order to breathe comfortably every day. She will always be more susceptible to colds, flus, and minor upper respiratory infections. Her fate lies in the technology that asthma and pulmonology research develops, but prevention of prematurity can prevent this from being the reality of so many others.

Thursday, December 12, 2013

All I want for Christmas


All I want for Christmas is to finally (really) be done with school... and maybe a job :)

As for the kids, they all want Creepers...  Don't know what a creeper is?  Well T has you covered, its that crazy Green thing that has invaded my holiday photo with Frosty... a character from the online video game sensation MineCraft.

Wes, I think would be happy with balloons, or a spinning thing that actually worked... 

Santa visit was a huge success, no tears this year.  Ava was a little bashful at first, but she warmed up.   Big thanks to ThedaCare for putting on this breakfast with Santa again this year, I love avoiding the Mall Santa! (Eight years and counting)

I think we might get one more year in for the big twins.  Liv told me that her little friend Cordelia told her that there was no such thing as Santa.  When I asked her what she thought about that, she told me that she knew there was because of something about Dad making noise in his room... didn't make a lot of sense, but as long as she concluded that there was a Santa, I thought we could ride it out another year :) How did they get so big?